If you are considering an abortion, we want you to know what this choice could mean to your future. You do have the choice not to have an abortion and we can help. We want to help you avoid being hurt physically and emotionally by offering solutions. Many women who work at our pregnancy resource centers have chosen abortion. They can share that abortion doesn’t “erase a mistake,” but can create many other problems in your life. You don’t need to make this decision right away. Slow down and allow time to think. Don’t let anyone tell you that you have to have an abortion. We exist to offer you choices. There are risks to most abortion procedures. Because of these dangers, we do not recommend or refer for abortion. Here are some things to consider before you make this decision:
Know the possible risks in an abortion
From the thousands of women now working in the pregnancy care world who have had abortions, we know that abortion has physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological risks. Abortion Risks
Get a blood or urine pregnancy test to confirm your pregnancy
It could be that you are not actually pregnant. Local Pregnancy Centers provide a laboratory-quality urine test free of charge as a service to women. A trained pregnancy center advocate can provide additional information relevant to your situation. All of their services are free and confidential.
Confirm your pregnancy with a doctor who doesn’t do abortions
It is possible that the abortion clinic may provide you with incorrect information in order to obtain your abortion fee. Carol Everett is a woman who used to provide abortion services in Texas. She testified in Congress that she sold abortions to women who were not pregnant, but feared they were. For the best medical input on abortion, we recommend you speak with a medical professional who has nothing to gain in your abortion decision.
Get a free ultrasound
You may receive a free ultrasound from your local Pregnancy Resource Center or a referral organization. This non-diagnostic ultrasound can tell you how many weeks you are into the pregnancy. This service, provided by a certified sonographer, may aid you in making this important decision.
Ask for the doctor’s name who is performing the abortion
Abortion is legal in the United States, but bad medical care is not. Women have died as a result of their “safe and legal” abortions. Some have had their bodies hurt to the point that they can no longer have children. If you don’t know the doctor’s name that is doing your abortion, you may find out. The abortion doctor could be counting on you not holding him accountable for hurting you because many women are afraid to let anyone know about this choice afterwards. Ask for his name and write it down.
Don’t sign anything that releases the doctor or the abortion clinic from being responsible for hurting you during your abortion
Many women have said that they were so upset by the emotion of the day that they signed anything put in front of them in order to “get out and have it done with.” If the center asks you to sign anything, take your time to read it over. If you don’t understand something, ask questions. If you don’t understand their answers, push them further. Don’t be in a rush because anything you sign could affect you in the future.
Understand you have rights in an abortion
It is against the law for anyone to force you to have an abortion. Not even a husband or parent can require you to undergo an abortion against your will, even if you are a minor (under 18 years old). Our center exists to help you in any circumstance. We can help you discuss this choice with those closest to you who are influencing your decision. The law in many states also requires abortion providers to give you information on: 1) possible complications, 2) the development of the baby, and 3) organizations that provide alternatives to abortion.
Verify that the abortion clinic is clean and sanitary
Many women report that the general area of the clinic where they had their abortions was unclean, dusty, and even smelled bad. Infections can result from unsanitary conditions. If you find yourself in a clinic, be sure to question their sanitizing procedures and view the condition of each room to ensure that you are receiving excellent care. If they don’t provide sufficient information to determine these conditions, give yourself permission to leave and demand a refund of your money.
Understand you can change your mind – even at the last minute
Many women who have experienced abortion relay that they felt they had to go through with the procedure once they had entered the clinic. Others say that they waited on the abortion table to be “rescued” by their boyfriend at the last minute. Some clinics even told the women that they couldn’t get their money back if they changed their mind. Abortion providers know that this is an agonizing decision and sometimes see women change their mind at the last minute because, as they say, “I simply can’t do this!” Know your rights. Don’t be pressured or intimidated. If the procedure is not performed, demand your money back.
Understand that it’s not a “blob of tissue”
Some abortion clinics tell women that their babies are not human at all, but simply a “blob of tissue” or a “dot.” For many it is easier to have an abortion if the woman believes her child isn’t yet human. Ultrasound photos show that at early stages of pregnancy the humanness of the embryo is clearly evident. When some women see these photos after their abortion, they are overwhelmed and grieved that the information the abortion clinic provides was misleading. An ultrasound will reveal the true development of your children.
Learn more about what a preborn child looks like.
Know you are not alone
Women who feel like they have no other choice often change their minds when visiting our center and understanding our support services. We exist to help you at any level of your pregnancy. There is no obstacle too big that can’t be overcome with friendship and support.
1 Mainline Confirms hCG, Ann Arbor, Michigan: Mainline Technology, Inc.
2 Carol Everett, What I Saw In The Abortion Industry, Jefferson City, MO: Easton Publishing, Inc