Do you know someone who is hurting from abortion?

Do you have a friend or relative who has had an abortion? Maybe you were involved in the abortion decision. Maybe you were in the waiting room during the abortion procedure maybe she confided in you long after the abortion. However you found out, you are visiting this web-site because you care, because you have seen their sadness and wondered how to help.

Don’t be upset if you cannot reach her heart on this issue – or if she acts like it was the best choice she ever made! Most post abortive women refuse to be comforted because they are unable to acknowledge their role in ending their child’s life. Satan’s voice in their mind is that they have committed an unforgivable sin. They feel friends and loved ones that discover their guilt will surely reject them. If they acknowledge their pain, then they will have to deal with it. The fear of “losing” it by facing the fact that they allowed the abortion to happen can keep the woman in denial for many years. You cannot pull her out of that place – only God can do that!

Your best gift to this person will be your love and prayers. She may or may not be ready to work through her pain. Perhaps our book, Her Choice to Heal: Finding Spiritual and Emotional Peace After Abortion, can be a resource – something they can tuck in a drawer and pull out some rainy day when the issue has become too hard to avoid. When that day comes, be ready with a list of the post abortion ministries and resources in your community to suggest. These can be found by clicking your state at the bottom of this page. But most of all, be ready with your unconditional love and support. God bless you in your desire to help.